A WOMAN’S BRAVE STORY – A Peek Inside the PAIN OF INFIDELITY

A WOMAN’S BRAVE STORY – A Peek Inside the PAIN OF INFIDELITY

*THIS CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE including a “love coach”. The truth is when a man, or woman isn’t being forthcoming with their own self, and they attempt to be someone they aren’t it will eventually catch up to them. In April of 2016, my husband and business partner made choices that lead to our eventual split. Like all couples we had our own struggles, but just as I tell my clients, when only one partner is willing and wanting to do the work you have no choice but to walk away.

So I had to take my own advice. Now I coach on my own helping others with matters of the heart. This heartache I experienced has made me stronger, wiser and I feel I’ll be of better service to others for it. I still wanted to share this beautiful story as it was written because even though Luis chose to leave instead of seeing our vows through, we were still able to help many couples overcome their strife during our time together.

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Many of our clients have had to deal with some type of indiscretion in their relationship. One woman who reached out after discovering her husband had an affair, sent us a powerful testimonial letter about her coaching experience with us (see letter below)We were so moved by her words we wanted to share them with others. Her honesty, bravery and vulnerability are truly refreshing and inspiring.

If you’re facing this same painful challenge, or know someone who is, please share this post so they understand it’s possible to heal. Couples stand a fighting chance to stay together if they’re both open and willing to seek outside help. Also, we want everyone to know that infidelity is always a symptom of deeper rooted issues. We’re here to help couples discover what those issues are so they don’t have to face this painful scenario again.

HER TESTIMONIAL LETTER:

I initially contacted The Love Coaches, Janie and Luis, because after two kids and 17 years of marriage my husband confessed he’d had an affair with a coworker. Of course, I was broken into a million pieces. The perfect life I thought we had was over, and there was no way to fix it. After some time I realized I needed to make a decision: either I leave, or stay and try to figure out how to fix our relationship.

 

Because we’d grown up figuring out and dealing with things ourselves, neither my husband nor I were good at reaching out and talking to people about our problems.

 

After a month of trying to fix our marriage, we realized we were broken as a couple. Doing things the way we always had in the past is what landed us in this situation in the first place. Not to mention every time my husband spoke to me, I wanted to scream at him.

I finally reached out to Janie and Luis, and man, am I glad I did! I hesitated on what to tell them, as I was embarrassed this had happened to me.

Let’s face it, everyone thinks this kind of situation could never happen to them, that their relationship is “perfect,” and that they’re the exception. But it can happen to you – like it did us — unless you take steps to prevent it, and actively work on yourself and your relationship.

Janie and Luis made me feel completely comfortable and at ease. There was no judgment about my relationship. They simply showed concern and compassion for what we were going through. After speaking with them a few times, for the first time since everything happened I felt like there could possibly be a light at the end of my tunnel.

At first my husband felt nervous about talking to them, because he thought they’d think he was a truly horrible person. But when I convinced him that wouldn’t be the case, he agreed to speak with them.

 

Their SAFE coaching method gives you a calming, no judgment, at-ease feeling that makes you comfortable to open up and tell them everything, even during your first visit.

 

Having both male and female perspectives on our issues was extremely helpful. Luis helped me understand what my husband was feeling. He helped me see he wasn’t a bad guy — he was actually a good guy who had made a bad mistake. 

Many men seem to have a hard time admitting their feelings, or being able to recognize what their feelings are. Janie helped my husband understand what he was feeling, what I was feeling, and showed him ways he could nurture and love me to make me feel safe again.

I’m not going to lie. After finding out about the affair, I was a complete mental wreck. I lost the sense of who I am and what I believed, and I’d get anxiety attacks where I’d literally stop breathing. After sessions with Janie I was able to relax, take deep breaths, find my center, and focus my mind. Feeling re-grounded allowed me to control my anger, and to feel my world wasn’t spinning out of control because I now had the ability to stop it.

 

Everything they did helped bridge the communication gap between me and my husband.

 

We learned how to talk to one another by sincerely listening and fully understanding what the other one was trying to say. We also identified our love language, and learned how to show each other love through our own types of languages. I can’t tell you enough how important it is to know what you and your partner’s love languages are, because you could be communicating in ways that make each other feel unloved without realizing it.

We learned that the “perfect” relationship we thought we had before the affair wasn’t so perfect after all. And that we had accumulated a great deal of anger and resentment towards one another, which we didn’t know how to recognize or communicate until working with Janie and Luis.

My husband and I now have a more open line of communication and love. We feel confident knowing that when problems arise we have the skills and tools to work through them.

 

Not only have we grown as a couple, we’ve grown as individuals because you must first learn to love yourself before you can love someone else.

 

Our relationship is better than it has ever been. We wouldn’t be where we’re at if it wasn’t for The Love Coaches, Janie and Luis, who helped us save ourselves and our marriage.  As an added gift, we made life-long friends!


GRATITUDE

We want to thank her and her husband from the bottom of our hearts for trusting us to help them through their difficult times.


If you feel you can use some guidance overcoming relationship challenges of any kind contact me to schedule a FREE CONSULTATION at 940-29-LOVEU(56838), or info@janieterrazas.com

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Janie Terrazas The Mindfulness Coach 940-29-LOVEU (56838)
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