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14 Love Virtues to Improve Our Wellness


The best way to reach your full potential in love and life is to live virtuously. I strive to live by these set of Love Virtues every single day. They nurture and cultivate positivity, creativity and vitality. Doing your best to honor these virtues through your thoughts, words and actions is an excellent way to illuminate your love life.


Honoring them and practicing my Seven Positive Daily Habits, will help keep your fears and negative thoughts in check. Plus, it will allow more happiness, love and abundance of wonderfulness to flow your way.


Although there isn’t an order of importance to the above list, Courage is first because you’ll need it to remain consistent with the others.


Courage

Unity

Honesty

Kindness

Mindfulness

Compassion

Forgiveness

Gratitude

Balance

Pleasure

Humility

Understanding

Patience

Equality


1. Courage

Courage is stepping out of your comfort zone. Whether it’s something small like saying hello to someone you think is cute, or brightening someone’s day by doing a random act of kindness — or even something as big as quitting a job that makes you miserable — you’re being courageous which helps build your self-confidence.


True confidence is when you’re able to honor your true self without fear of being judged. Knowing who you are, what you stand for, what you believe in and remaining strong in your convictions is very powerful.


2. Unity

When you unite your mind with your heart, and create a healthy relationship between the two, it’s much easier to embody the concept of oneness. Understanding that everyone matters and that you can make a difference in their lives is what this particular Love Virtue is all about. Having reverence for all life forms, and embracing the concept of interconnectedness with all of creation will greatly impact your life.


3. Honesty

When you lie to yourself or others, you’re choosing to disconnect from truth and love. When you’re too afraid to be honest (regardless of the reason) you’re doing yourself a disservice. Not only does it affect your health by releasing stress-inducing chemicals into your immune system, but it also affects the overall quality of your life.


The more authentic and genuine you are, the more you’re able to connect with the greater part of yourself. Being honest is about being willing to honor your true feelings without fear, a trait most people lack.


4. Kindness

Any time a person is kind to someone, it makes both them and the other person feel good. So why don’t people do it more often? Everyone has the ability to inspire, encourage and help people. Whether it’s someone you know or a complete stranger, there are plenty of moments throughout a day where you can extend kindness.


It doesn’t always have to be a grand gesture, as it’s the little things that make a difference in people’s lives. (i.e., opening a door, giving a compliment or a hug, or sending an encouraging text or email to a friend who is going through hard times). The more kindness you extend to others, the more it will be reciprocated.


If your intentions are tied to an expectation of receiving something in return, you’ve completely missed the mark. Trust that a simple act of kindness will boomerang back to you many times in positive ways, especially when you need it the most. Plus, there are plenty of studies that suggest the kinder you are the healthier and happier you become. Being kind to yourself is just as important as being kind to others.


5. Mindfulness

Mindfulness has to do with your level of consciousness, which is how present you are in the world. Being mindful is about understanding that your thoughts, beliefs and actions impact your wellness levels and external reality. It’s about learning how to positively respond to the world, instead of chronically reacting negatively to it. How you perceive yourself, others and your environment is connected to your subconscious mind. So going through and rebuilding healthier belief systems is part of mastering this virtue.


Your life experience has everything to do with how much you’re willing to be responsible for your thoughts, words and actions. Learning how to use your cognitive thinking skills, and how to be compassionate, is critical when it comes to being mindful. Mindfulness allows you to see life from a deeper, higher, wider perspective by bringing conscious clarity to the forefront of your mind, which results in more peaceful living.


6. Compassion

Coming from a place of compassion and acceptance isn’t typically taught in our culture. People tend to be very quick to judge and criticize themselves and others. When people don’t behave or think like they do, they feel they’re wrong and they are right. When their expectations aren’t met they instantly react by fighting back.


How people choose to project themselves is based on criteria others aren’t normally privy to. It’s difficult to impossible to tell what someone is going through or what they’ve experienced, which is why everyone needs to “chill” with their judgmental attitudes.


It’s important for us to rise above differences, and let others be who they are. Now, if someone rubs you the wrong way, or oversteps your boundaries, instead of getting sucked into their darkness you can take the high road of illumination. Remember, just like everyone else you have weaknesses, fears and a not-so-pretty side to your nature. Living from a higher perspective of compassion and acceptance also plays into forgiveness. Note: We must have healthy boundaries when it comes to compassion and acceptance. Abuse and manipulation are not ok.


7. Forgiveness

One of the most liberating, powerful actions a human being can extend to themselves and others is the act of forgiveness. When you make mistakes it’s very easy to hold on to regret and guilt, which makes it difficult to forgive yourself. It can be even more difficult to find compassion for others when you’ve been wronged by them, especially if they don’t take accountability for their actions.


Holding on to a painful experience — and not letting go of the anger, regret, disappointment, resentment, sadness or any negative emotion associated with it — continues the cycle of suffering. Not letting go can weigh on you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually; therefore, forgiveness is more for you than it is the other person, though they also benefit from this loving act.


8. Gratitude