• Janie Terrazas

The 8 Principles of Emotional Intimacy

To master conditional love (ego based love) is one thing, but to master UNCONDITIONAL LOVE (soul based love) is radical.

Whether you’re single, or already in a relationship, you have the FREE WILL to STEP UP and STEP INTO this richer kind of love for SELF, and others.


In order for you to experience UNCONDITIONAL LOVE with your partnerthe delicious kind of love that allows you to THRIVE… then you’ll need to cultivate, establish and nurture the following 8 Principles of Emotional Intimacy:

1) You must both be able to safely express your wants, needs, concerns, fears, insecurities, and desires honestly and effectively…this is what emotional intelligence is all about. Being able to be RAW and REAL with each other like TRUE FRIENDS, solidifies security and emotional intimacy. Without this type of transparent, harmonious communication your union will suffer greatly. Compassionate listening is also key.

2. You must have a never ending curiosity to UNDERSTAND yourself, and your partner on an intimate level mentally, emotionally and physically AKA – know thyself and your partner. It’s easier to fully accept one another if you try to understand where your needs and triggers stem from. This is about respecting each other’s perspectives. THREE things you absolutely need to know about one another is your love languages, masculine/feminine essence, and your attachment styles.

3. You must genuinely care about your well-being and your partners. This is about nurturing your FOUR PILLARS OF LIFE, and supporting your partner to do the same. Showing consideration and empathy for your partners feelings is also part of caring for them. This shouldn’t feel like an obligation, if it does you have some healing to do.

We must acknowledge that even in partnership, we’re each responsible for our own happiness and well being. However, our partner’s do have the ability to impact our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being positively, or negatively.

4. There is not a competitive energy, but rather a cooperative one. You must both have the oneness attitude, and the knowing that you’re equals. You recognize you’re on the same team aiming to achieve the same goals in the relationship.

You know each other’s strengths and weaknesses, and learn how to respect them (instead of condemning them), and bridge them for the greater good of the partnership. You understand that even though you may not always get along, or see eye to eye, in the big scheme of things you trust you have each other’s best interest in mind.